We all know way too well the feelings of being stuck in a life that we no longer want to live, like we are on an automatic pilot doing what pays the bills and living where we always lived.

We are just too scared to move on, the excuses we create to procrastinate, to postpone our dreams, to trying and fool ourselves that it is not that bad, because some people are doing worse than we are doing. The fact is: yes, a lot of people are doing way worse than us, and that is not a good enough excuse to not take action into further our careers or change it for that matter, or move cities, or get married, or get divorced, or have kids.

If you have this feeling that you should be doing something else, it is probably because you should. Not when someone else tells you that, but when you feel it deep inside that you are in the wrong place, iat the wrong time, it is because you are.

Our feelings are our compass, the thermometer that we should live our lives by. But we get "responsible", and for some people that means that they stop believing, they stop pursuing what is that they feel it is right for them, not for their spouses, for their parents, their peers.
I know some 50 years old saying that they won't leave their jobs, because it is a family business, that they are expected to do. I am sorry but parents should not expecting anything from their kids other than love and respect. So move on with your life, you don't owe your parents anything.
There is this other ghost, the fear. We actually fear things that are not even real. We have no guarantees in life. I once got a job, and everybody said that nobody could be fired at that job, and I rented a place right around the corner from this great and secure and safe place. 9 months later everybody were fired, because they decided to just have contractors, instead of employees. So nothing is secure, so don't bet on that.

So when an opportunity presents itself, grab it,. When it does not present itself, make it one. You are as capable of creating something amazing as anyone else.
So get out of your comfort zone, there lies your frustrated self.

Rely on yourself, study and research and be prepared to fly. Just consider what it is that you are willing to risk and to lose, and what you have to have to feel happy and don't negotiate on that.

I had some major changes this year, I moved from Cold Maryland to warm Florida, left my job and had a baby, my husband was hired in another company and we had major losses, as well as major gains. I just did not want to negotiate health insurance and Montessori school for my daughter, the rest I was willing to sacrifice if needed.
When I got that, I was happy, because It was my dream to live in Florida for a long time. I was never my happiest on a cold weather, and I missed the beach a lot, so I was willing to come and endure a big move in the latest stage of my pregnancy.

There is no ideal situation, mine for example was at a very trying timing, I was 7 months pregnant, in pre-term labor. I had to find an OB/GYN at the last minute and had to do a lot of stuff while on bed rest. It was not easy but it passed, like any storm, it passes. Now, I am living in the place that I always dreamed living.
When the opportunity came, I was not ready, actually far from it, but I jumped at it, with faith and taking the fear out of my life.

I hope you can create your best life. I am creating mine.

Hope, Faith and light to you all!

Danny Bastos